Men's Health
13 Car Sex Positions to Bring Your Fantasies Out of the Bedroom
If you’re craving fun and different sex positions, but aren’t quite ready to pull the trigger on buying a sex swing for sex swing positions, consider car sex positions the gateway to hotter sex.
“We all know variety is the spice of life and having car sex breaks you out of the monotony of your typical sexual experiences,” says sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, MA, a Lovers sexpert.
If you’re hung up on the same missionary sex positions and want to be a better lover, communicating with your partner about ways to engage in more erotic play is the first step. Car sex brings novelty and, in a strangely arousing way, an air of nostalgia. When you explored your sexuality as a teen, your first experience was probably in a car. Car sex reinstates that sense of play and discovery.
Like every unique body, every car is different, so you’ll need to experiment with the best car sex positions that work for you, your partner, and your vehicle.
“If you have a great back seat—or seats that flatten and give you plenty of cargo space—you can accomplish pretty much any position as you would in bed: missionary, cowgirl, butterfly, doggy, 69 sex positions, and more,” says Angie Rowntree, founder and director of Sssh.com. “We say let your vehicle’s interior space be your practical guide, then let your mutual desires and imaginations wander.”
Word to the wise, you might not be near your nightstand, but be sure to bring lube, nipple clamps, anal beads, prostate massagers, and/or cock rings along for the ride.
Benefits of Car Sex
Car sex doesn’t just add variety to a sex routine, but it can turn something you dread into something you desire. “If you’re not looking forward to a long drive, tuck some lube, one of the best sex toys for men and sex toys for women, and let the road trip commence,” says Rowntree. Another pro tip: Keep a sheet or towel in the trunk to lay across.
Car sex has a taboo element to it, which lends itself to spontaneity. “If you can spontaneously cross the highway to satisfy a craving for Dunkin’ Donuts, who says you can’t do the same to handle a craving for sex?” Rowntree adds.
Another benefit for busy couples is to use car sex as a “sanctuary,” says Stewart. Car sex positions are a fantastic escape from the chaos of day-to-day life. This is especially beneficial to couples who rarely get alone time.
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Finally, car sex allows you and your partner to highlight your sexual abilities and strengths. “Whether you have amazing flexibility or stamina, car sex positions help you see where you stand,” says Stewart, acknowledging that because it’s not easy to navigate car sex well, when you do execute a position that feels good, you gain more confidence in your abilities and get more creative about other car sex positions. Ultimately, “it’ll inspire you to execute those positions beyond the car,” adds Stewart.
Disclaimer: Be sure to execute car sex in a remote location so you aren’t violating trespassing laws on private or protected property (like that near a school!) and since some of the positions can be a bit challenging given the lack of space (which is also a reason car sex is so fun), be sure to keep extra lube in the glove box for ease of pleasure.
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Best Car Sex Positions
1. Cowgirl
How to Do It
Front Passenger Seat
If you’ve got a two-door car and don’t have much of a back seat, slide the passenger seat as far back as it will go to create space between you and the dashboard. The penetrative partner sits, adjusting the angle of recline for comfort, then the receiving partner straddles them, resting their knees on either side of the seat. The vulva-owner can gyrate in circles or thrust up and down on their partner’s penis or strap-on.
Back Row Middle Seat
A bench seat is the best for cowgirl as it provides plenty of space on either side for the rider’s legs to splay. The penetrative partner sits in the middle seat and the receiving partner sits on top, facing them. The rider can place their hands on their partner’s shoulders or use the headrest/top of bench seat for support and balance.
SUV, Crossover, or Hatchback Cargo Space
Put the seats down in the back to create a flat space. The penetrative partner lies down on their back, then the vulva-owner climbs on top (shown above).
2. Butterfly
How to Do It
Recline the passenger seat as far back as it will go. The receiving partner sits, then scooches down so their back is on the base of the seat, head resting against the seat back, and butt hanging off the edge of the seat. They’ll splay their legs open, holding their knees for support as the penetrative partner kneels on the floor between the dashboard and the seat to thrust in and out. Height matters here: If the penetrative partner is on the taller side, they might not have enough room.
3. Doggy
How to Do It
SUV, Crossover, or Hatchback Cargo Space
Pop open the tailgate of the SUV, crossover, or hatchback. The receiving partner gets on all fours, facing the interior of the vehicle. The penetrative partner stands outside the vehicle and enters from behind.
Back Row Middle Seat
The receiving partner kneels on the middle seat of the back row, facing the back windshield. The giving partner kneels on the floor and enters from behind.
“The receiving partner can lean forward on the back of the seat for support, while the giving partner controls the thrusting,” says Kate Balestrieri, licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist, and founder of Modern Intimacy. “It provides deep penetration and a secure grip for the giving partner.”
4. Backseat Straddle
How to Do It
The penetrative partner sits on the backseat and the receiving partner straddles them so they’re face-to-face. The vulva-owner lowers down on their partner’s penis or strap-on and controls the speed, depth, and rhythm. “This position can be intimate and close, and allows for deep penetration,” shares Rachel Needle, licensed psychologist and co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes.
5. Rear-Entry Lean
How to Do It
“Ensure the backseat and floor are clear,” prefaces Needle, then have the receiving partner kneel on the floor and lean over the backseat with hands or forearms resting against the seatback for support. The penetrative partner kneels behind the receiving partner and engages in penetration vaginally or anally. Depending on the vehicle and body size, the penetrative partner can kneel on the backseat and the receiving partner can stand then fold their body over the passenger seat, pushing their hips back so genitals align. “This position is easy to get into, and gives a great angle for G-spot stimulation,” Needle adds.
6. Clamshell
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies on their back across the bench seat or cargo space and brings their legs all the way up to their ears, mimicking the happy baby pose in yoga. The penetrative partner lowers on top and enters slowly for deep penetration.
7. Backseat Driver
How to Do It
Utilize the captain’s chair in the backseat and recline one all the way back. The giving partner sits back while the receiving partner straddles them, facing away, with their back to them. “This one is a wild ride,” says Melissa Fogel, licensed psychologist at Whole Health Psychological Center. “It provides more legroom for both partners and good control of depth and pace.”
8. Side Saddle
How to Do It
The penetrative partner lies on their side across the bench seat, then the receiving partner assumes a spooning position so their back is to the penetrative partner’s front. “The receiving partner can keep one leg bent for better access, while the giving partner controls the angle of penetration,” says Balestrieri. “The position can be awkward to get into at first and may require some adjustment to find the right angle,” she says. But once you’re in it, it’s “ideal for slower, more sensual sessions with plenty of full-body contact.”
9. Inverted 69
How to Do It
The larger of the two partners sits in the passenger seat and reclines the angle back to 45 degrees. The partner on top assumes an inverted position by placing their head on the bottom’s lap—bracing their weight on their partner’s knees or placing hands on floor—to align mouths to genitals. The partner on top rests their hips on the bottom’s shoulders, knees against headrest, and feet against ceiling.
10. Backseat Missionary
How to Do It
For beginners, or simply a couple who doesn’t want to spend time maneuvering around the restrictions of a tight space, “this one is simple,” says sexologist Jess O’Reilly, host of the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. The penetrative partner lies on top of the receiving partner across the back cargo space. “You can change angles, swap positions, turn around, and experiment for variation,” says O’Reilly.
11. Spider
How to Do It
The receiving partner lies down on the back bench seat, knees bent, feet planted. The penetrative partner faces them, propping their hands behind them for leverage and support as they weave their legs under the receiving partner’s to align genitals. The giver can thrust their hips or move in a circular motion, while the vulva-owner is free to massage their breasts or stimulate their clit.
12. Kneeling
How to Do It
Both partners get on their knees on the back bench seat. The receiving partner straddles the penetrator, pressing their bodies firmly together. It’s a straightforward position that’s perfect for larger vehicles as both partners can feel like they have more space to enjoy themselves.
13. Solo Sex
How to Do It
“When you want to get away from your spouse, kids, or pets, take your favorite sex toy, put on your favorite music and/or pornography and take the time to enjoy yourself,” says Stewart. “Just be sure to use common sense and discretion: Never attempt this in moving traffic or public spaces,” Rowntree adds. Keep this behavior to your garage at home or truly desolate public areas.
Meet the Experts
- Sexologist Marla Renee Stewart, MA, Lovers sexpert
- Angie Rowntree, founder and director of Sssh.com
- Kate Balestrieri, licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist, and founder of Modern Intimacy
- Rachel Needle, licensed psychologist and co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes
- Melissa Fogel, licensed psychologist at Whole Health Psychological Center